It’ll be a little while before I have a chance to transcribe my conversation about memoir writing with Whip Smart author Melissa Febos - we talked onstage the other night, at a fundraiser for The Rumpus/Stephen Elliott’s film, Happy Baby. (Contribute here: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/706884381/happy-baby-the-movie)
In any case, I got so much out of talking with her. At the moment, I’m thinking about what she said re: first unabashedly writing it ALL, then eliminating unnecessarily hurtful material later on, while wearing “mom goggles” or “dad goggles” or “ex-boyfriend goggles” etc. The point being, you can’t know what’s unnecessary or potentially too hurtful until you’re done writing your first draft. It’s similar to what Nick Flynn told me at the last NY Rumpus event. Great memoirists think alike, I suppose. Thanks, Melissa.